Emotions can be confusing. They can be frightening. They can overwhelm us. They can dictate what we do although we try so hard to control ourselves.
In short, handling emotions can be a big challenge. Yet if we want to live a satisfying life, guided but not ruled by emotions, we need the skills to handle them. Possessing emotional intelligence means that you are able to:
– feel and tolerate emotions
– express & explore emotions
– regulate emotions
– understand and reflect on emotions
In this course you learn the right tools for this, taken from Emotion Focused Therapy.
First we will focus on developing self-control techniques that allow you a workable distance towards emotions. You can’t work with emotions when you’re either overwhelmed or when you feel numbed. Self-compassion is one of the tools you will learn here.
Second, you will learn to allow difficult emotions. Mindfulness and pendulation are the two main tools here.
Third, you will learn to use your emotions as a source of information. Emotions offer you essential information about your relationship to situations and your needs. Focusing will be an important tool which you will learn here.
Fourth, you will learn to reflect on emotions. We all carry some deep emotions with us, based on earlier life experiences (like for example a sensitivity for rejection or a fear to commit). And these are often also connected with important decisions we take in life and the way we generally deal with challenges (our coping strategies). Reflection on core emotions helps you to better understand yourself and to lead a more meaningful and authentic life. Writing assignments are an important tool here.
Session 1: overview of the course, stress regulation techniques part 1
Session 2: stress regulation techniques part 2
Session 3: allowing emotions & strategies we use not to feel them
Session 4-5: understanding emotions
Session 6-7: reflecting on emotions
Session 8: summary
Optional follow-up session
The course is taught by me, Francisco Beisterveld. I’m a certified mindfulness trainer and EFT-therapist. I work also as a POH-GGZ for the student GP’s office de Uithof/Janskerkhof in Utrecht and GP’s office UT Campus in Enschede. More information about me you can find here.
Is the listed price for one session or for the whole course?
The listed price is the price for the entire course.
Can I miss a session?
That’s not a problem. All sessions are recorded, so you can watch them at a different moment.
I prefer not to work with a buddy, is that possible?
Sure, it’s just an option.
Will I learn how to control emotions?
The best way of emotion regulation (= what most people consider to be ‘control’) is allowing emotions more & understanding them better. This will reduce stress, decrease the likelihood of stress-driven behaviour (fight/flight/freeze) and allow you to better address your needs.
Is the idea of the course that I should always act on my emotions? I don’t want that, I can act pretty impulsively.
No. You obviously don’t always want to act on your emotions. But you can only take an informed decision about whether or not to act on an emotion, after you experienced the emotion fully (allowing, feeling, understanding its meaning, knowing its history, feeling the connected need and urge).
I feel often overwhelmed by emotions. Can this course help me?
Feeling overwhelmed by emotions is a challenge many people experience. In this course you learn how to be close enough to an emotion so you can work with it, but keep enough distance not to be drowned in it.
I find it difficult to feel emotions/to know what I feel. Can this course help me?
Difficulties feeling emotions and not knowing what you feel are challenges many people experience. In this course you learn how to recognise and allow emotions.
Dates: 24 February, 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 March, 7, 14 April 2023